The Dance of Intimacy

The Dance of Intimacy Author Harriet Lerner
ISBN-10 006091646X
Year 1990
Pages 272
Language en
Publisher William Morrow Paperbacks
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In The Dance of Intimacy, the bestselling author of The Dance of Anger outlines the steps to take so that good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones can be healed. Taking a careful look at those relationships where intimacy is most challenged--by distance, intensity, or pain--she teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others. Combining clear advice with vivid case examples, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, helpful book on intimate relationships that both women and men may ever encounter.

The Dance of Intimacy

The Dance of Intimacy Author Harriet Lerner
ISBN-10 0061741078
Year 2009-03-17
Pages 272
Language en
Publisher Harper Collins
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In The Dance of Intimacy, the bestselling author of The Dance of Anger outlines the steps to take so that good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones can be healed. Taking a careful look at those relationships where intimacy is most challenged--by distance, intensity, or pain--she teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others. Combining clear advice with vivid case examples, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, helpful book on intimate relationships that both women and men may ever encounter.

The Dance of Intimacy

The Dance of Intimacy Author Harriet Goldhor Lerner
ISBN-10 0722538057
Year 1989
Pages 255
Language en
Publisher HarperThorsons
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This guide outlines the steps women, as well as men, can take to strengthen good relationships and heal difficult ones. It is also available on two 90-minute audio-cassettes from HarperAudio.

The Dance of Anger

The Dance of Anger Author Harriet Lerner
ISBN-10 9780062328526
Year 2014-03-25
Pages 256
Language en
Publisher Harper Collins
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"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner, in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers.While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches women to identify the true sources of our anger and to use anger as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.

The Dance of Deception

The Dance of Deception Author Harriet Lerner
ISBN-10 0060924632
Year 1994-01-20
Pages 272
Language en
Publisher Harper Collins
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When The Dance of Deceptionwas published, Lerner discovered that women were not eager to identify with the subject. "Well, I don't do deception" was a common resonse. We all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on. The Dance of Deceptionunravels the ways (and whys) that women show the false and hide the real -- even to our own selves. We see how relationships are affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending and by brave -- but misguided -- efforts to tell the truth. Truth-telling is at the heart of what is most central in women's lives. It is at the foundation of authenticity and creativity, intimacy and joy. Yet in the name of "honesty", we can bludgeon each other. We can approach a difficult issue with such a poor sense of timing and tact that we can actually shut down the lines of communication rather than widening the path of truth-telling. Sometimes Lerner's advice takes a surprising turn -- for example, when she asks us to engage in a bold act of pretending in order to discover something "more real"; or when she tells us not to parachute down on our family to bring up a "hot issue" without laying the necessary groundwork first. Whether the subject is affairs, family secrets, sexual faking or the challenge of "being oneself", Lerner helps us to discover, speak and live our own truths.

The Two Step

The Two Step Author Eileen McCann
ISBN-10 0802130321
Year 1994-01
Pages 160
Language en
Publisher Grove Press
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Equating the struggle to achieve intimacy with the choreography of a simple dance, the author demonstrates how easy it can be to sidestep conflicts of power and distance and transform them into a meaningful closeness

The Dance of Connection

The Dance of Connection Author Harriet Lerner
ISBN-10 0061851833
Year 2009-10-13
Pages 272
Language en
Publisher Harper Collins
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In her most affirming and life-changing book yet, Dr. Harriet Lerner teaches us how to restore love and connection with the people who matter the most. In The Dance of Connection we learn what to say (and not say) when: We need an apology, and the person who has harmed us won't apologize or be accountable. We don't know how to take a conversation to the next level when we feel desperate. We feel worn down by the other person's criticism, negativity, or irresponsible behavior. We have been rejected or cut off, and the other person won't show up for the conversation. We are struggling with staying or leaving, and we don't know our "bottom line." We are convinced that we've tried everything -- and nothing changes. Filled with compelling personal stories and case examples, Lerner outlines bold new "voice lessons" that show us how to speak with honor and personal integrity, even when the other person behaves badly. Whether we're dealing with a partner, parent, sister, or best friend, The Dance of Connection teaches us how to navigate our most important relationships with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction.

Life Preservers

Life Preservers Author Harriet Lerner
ISBN-10 0061748447
Year 2009-10-13
Pages 372
Language en
Publisher Harper Collins
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With wit, wisdom and uncommon sense, Dr. Harriet Lerner gives readers the tools to solve problems and create joy, meaning and integrity in their relationships. Women will find Life Preservers (more than 40,000 copies sold in hardcover) to be an invaluable motivational guide that covers the landscape of work and creativity, anger and intimacy, friendship and marriage, children and parents, loss and betrayal, sexuality and health and much more. With new insights and a results-oriented approach, Dr. Lerner answers women’s most frequently asked questions and offers the best advice for problems women face today: I always pick the wrong guys. Should I move in with him? I can’t stand my boss. Should I leave my marriage? How can I recover from his affair? Is my fantasy abnormal? Is my therapy working? I miss my mother. I can’t believe I was fired.

Marriage Rules

Marriage Rules Author Harriet Lerner
ISBN-10 9781101554210
Year 2012-01-05
Pages 288
Language en
Publisher Penguin
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Following a unique format perfect for today's world, the renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives us just over 100 rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships. Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems ("He won't talk"/"She doesn't want sex") as well as modern ones (your partner's relationship to technology.) You'll also learn how to: Calm things down and warm them up Talk straight and fight fair Listen well as a spiritual practice Connect with a distant partner Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren and difficult- laws Follow a 12-step program to overcome defensiveness Know how and when to draw the line Take back your marriage when things fall apart Marriage Rules is a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your couple relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction. If one person in a couple follows ten rules of his or her choice, it will generate a major, positive change. All that's required is a genuine wish for a better relationship and a willingness to practice.

The Dance of Intimacy

The Dance of Intimacy Author Linda Wall
ISBN-10 097322827X
Year 2007-04
Pages 97
Language en
Publisher
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A tantalizing collection of romantic poetry From the blush of new love to the hurt and heartbreak of betrayal and unrequited love, Linda Wall shares a small part of her collection of over 200 poems written over the last 25 years. This is her first published collection of poetry. Ms. Wall says, 'Writing poetry has been a cathartic process for me all my life. These words you read were never written with the intention of ever been shown to another human being. They are the words of one woman's perspective of the human condition in searching for love and intimacy.' Amazing Linda's work is beautiful. Powerful is a better description . . . I found her words so moving. WOW (Val Clemont, author of Angel Advice) It 'will touch everyone who has ever been lonely, ever longed for that special someone.' (Cara Beckett, Carajaz Coaching & Publishing)

The Dance of Deception

The Dance of Deception Author Harriet Goldhor Lerner
ISBN-10 UOM:39015020875277
Year 1993
Pages 254
Language en
Publisher Harpercollins
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In this fresh, challenging new book, Dr. Lerner invites us to join her in a groundbreaking exploration of the many faces of truth and deception in women's lives. Through examples that are both startlingly intimate and deeply political, Dr. Lerner provides us with bold insights into the countless ways (and whys) that women show the false and hide the real. Deception is not a "woman's problem," or even a uniquely human phenomenon: From viruses to large mammals, deception is continuously at play. We are all affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending, by self-deception, and by brave - as well as misguided - efforts to tell the truth. Dr. Lerner shows us that women's failure to live authentically and speak truly deserves our closest attention. She illustrates how pretending is so closely linked with femininity that it is, quite simply, what the culture teaches us to do. Truth-telling is the central challenge in women's lives, the foundation of intimacy, self-regard, and joy. At the center of a woman's life is the quest to discover, speak and live her own truth, to cease living a life dictated and defined by others. Yet in the name of "truth" or "being ourselves," we may hurt others by disregarding their different realities and move situations from bad to worse. How can we approach the process of truth-telling, of knowing and being known, of refining and deepening our disclosures to one another? Like peace-making, truthtelling does not just "happen." Sometimes it must be worked toward and planned. Drawing on more than two decades of clinical experience, Dr. Lerner articulates her rich philosophy and thoughtful guidelines about speaking out and holding back. She shows us how honesty can sometimes impede truth-telling and how pretending can be a bold move toward the truth, rather than a misdirected flight from it. She examines how patriarchy shapes what truths a woman can uncover, share, and invent about herself. And she teaches us how to widen the path to truth-telling for everyone. The Dance of Deception is Harriet Lerner's most timely, provocative, and passionate work to date. From sexual faking to family secrets, readers will be rewarded with important insights into how we engage in deception and approach truth-telling - a subject that is at the heart of who we are in the world and what kind of world this is.

Women in Therapy

Women in Therapy Author Harriet Lerner
ISBN-10 9780060972288
Year 1989-05-05
Pages 288
Language en
Publisher Harper Collins
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In clear, lively prose, Harriet Lerner takes a bold look at women and the psychotherapists who work with them.

Dance with Me

Dance with Me Author Julia A. Ericksen
ISBN-10 9780814722855
Year 2011
Pages 279
Language en
Publisher NYU Press
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Rumba music starts and a floor full of dancers alternate clinging to one another and turning away. Rumba is an erotic dance, and the mood is hot and heavy; the women bend and hyperextend their legs as they twist and turn around their partners. They slide their feet along the floor toes first, transferring their weight from leg to leg, and settling their hips after each move to produce the rolling hip action, which is particularly visible in this slow-paced dance. Amateur and professional ballroom dancers alike compete in a highly gendered display of intimacy, romance and sexual passion. In Dance With Me, Julia Ericksen, a competitive ballroom dancer herself, takes the reader onto the competition floor and into the lights and the glamour of a world of tanned bodies and glittering attire, exploring the allure of this hyper-competitive, difficult, and often expensive activity.In this vivid exploration of the world of ballroom dance, accompanied by beautiful photographs of all levels of dancers, from the world's top competitors to social dancers, Ericksen examines the ways emotional labour is used to create intimacy between professional partners and between professionals and their students, illustrating how dancers purchase intimacy. She shows that, while at first glance, ballroom dancing presents a highly gendered face with men leading and women following, dancing also transgresses gender. Dancers press their bodies against those of strangers in ways that would be outrageous in the outside world, and while masculinity and dancing are thought to be incompatible and men who dance find their gender and sexuality suspect, dancers tell a story of heterosexual intimacy and desire; they aim for a moment when they dance as one.